In the acknowledgement section of Julia Child’s The French Chef cookbook, she mentions her husband Paul, and refers to him as the man who is always there. She then mentions all these roles he plays in her life. He is the fish illustrator, he is the dishwasher, and the porter, and resident poet, and husband, and many other things.
I was struck by the phrase “the man who is always there” to be someone in someone else’s life who is always present for them is really an outstanding role to have, and if you are that in someone else’s life, they’re very lucky to have you.
If you have someone like that in your life, take the time to acknowledge for them how much it means to you that they are always there. I am sure that is a compliment that will be very well received.
In leadership, being “the one who is always there” may not be glamorous, but it’s essential. Here are three simple ways leaders can embrace and demonstrate this kind of reliable presence:
- Show Up Consistently: Your team notices when you’re present—not just physically, but mentally and emotionally. Whether it’s regular one-on-ones, follow-through on commitments, or simply listening without distraction, consistency builds trust over time.
- Support in Small Ways: Just like Paul Child did with fish illustrations and dishes, leaders make an impact when they step in to do the less visible work. Helping prep for a big meeting, offering backup during a tough client conversation, or staying late once in a while to assist—these small actions reinforce that you’re with your team, not just above them.
- Acknowledge Reliability in Others: Just as you might appreciate someone who’s always there for you, make a habit of recognizing that quality in your team. Publicly or privately acknowledging dependable behavior encourages it—and helps people feel seen for more than just results.