One of the more interesting concepts in psychology is called the “help-rejecting complainer.” That is somebody who brings problems to you and tells you they want your advice. As soon as you offer any, though, they either negate it, tell you why it won’t work, or tell you they already did that. That kind of […]
advice, help, reject, rejecting, time
Somebody was complaining to my father about a friend who was disappointing them quite a bit over a pretty long period of time. My father listened to all the examples they gave and considered it for a bit and then said three words, “Find another friend.” It was an example of my father’s purely logical […]
advice, approach, father, Friend, logical
Once I was walking on the boardwalk in a quiet beach community, and there were a couple people on the boards – one being an old grizzled guy, on an old grizzled bike, kind of riding back and forth, occasionally saying hello to somebody. I stopped by a pole to stretch my leg, and must […]
advice, answers, boardwalk
The other day, I was driving down the street on a road that had a bicycle lane on both sides and in the distance I saw an older woman with a walker headed in my direction. She was coming towards me. I thought immediately of pulling over and seeing if she needed any help, but […]
advice, walk, walk into the wind, wind
Throughout my life, I have benefited from having wonderful mentors who’ve helped me grow and develop, and I wanted to share with you three qualities those people have had so that if you are seeking a mentor for yourself, whether it’s personal or professional, that these qualities might be things you look for, too. The […]
advice, leader, Mentor, mentorship
On a commute to work that I had several years ago, there was a man who stood at the same intersection every morning, waving to cars as they went through the intersection, and the response was really positive. People would honk their horns and wave back, and he impacted so many people that the local […]
advice, good morning, good morning man, morning
One of my favorite sayings is the Chinese proverb, “The best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago. The second best time is now.” There are three wonderful take aways from that one saying. First, there’s no bad time to do something good for yourself. Any time you choose to do something helpful […]
advice, chinese proverb, plant a tree, tree
When I was growing up, it was not uncommon if teachers or parents saw us sort of slouching down in our chair to say, “Sit up straight!” And I’m not exactly sure what they wanted more than making sure that we had good posture, but they may have been more right than they realized. There […]
advice, brain, posture, sit up straight
When you mention daily routines to most people, you’ll likely get reactions that are polar opposite. There are people who love routines because they enjoy being organized and structured, and there are people who don’t like routines because they feel like it is inhibiting their freedom. I am more on the enjoying routines side of […]
advice, brain, ideas, oranization, routines
Years ago, I saw a wonderful James Thurber cartoon that shows a man holding a phone and yelling into it,” Well if I called the wrong number, why did you answer the phone?” And it captures so well when something bad happens that’s our fault, we can at times immediately blame the other person. I […]
advice, mindset, perspective, perspectives